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For this post I want you to ponder the question – what would happen in your life if you were to embrace your femininity? I struggled with this one for a loooong time, but once I truly grasped the concept, my life changed for the better.

Being a woman can be difficult, with raging hormones, emotional waves, body image issues and constantly worrying about food. We worry we aren’t being paid enough and we wonder how it is we are supposed to get what we want out of life as the world seems so unfair. 

But, being a woman is also magical and fun and surprising and intuitive. We are gifted with the ability to feel deeply, love deeply, give life, and to nurture the world around us. 

So that’s pretty amazing.

Accepting those things that are inherent to us as women is a part of the process, for if we ignore it, and try to act like men, we pay the price in the long run. 

So it helps if you embrace your femininity, rather than fighting it.

Additionally, our bodies are more sensitive, our nervous systems more vulnerable, our guts more permeable, our hormones and energy more cyclical. We have the emotional load of life as well as a physical load. We try to be everything at once and we try to compete with men for a place on the corporate table. 

The same applies to food and training, we eat and move like men, in the way a study determines is good for a man to do. Often we dive into these principles thinking we are all the same and we wonder why it’s no good for us. We wonder why it doesn’t work as well as it does for our brother, father, partner or friend. 

Men and women are different, biologically. As much as there is a social construct fuelling this denial, science cannot deny it.

With nutrition, we need to learn to just eat, to stop dieting and focus on getting in wholesome food each day. We need to be mindful of alcohol and junk food, especially if we are burning the candle at both ends, as this is the time we are most vulnerable. 

We need to stop fasting, cutting carbs and living off caffeine, and find a way to enjoy food without it needing to be extreme. 

With training and movement, we need to remember we have wider hips, narrower waists, we have breasts and more fat around our bellies and thighs. This means we have different weight distribution, and this changes the way we move. 

In order to move optimally, we need to ensure our posture is supported by the glutes, hamstrings, back and abdominals. Only then will we feel satisfied with our training, and less injured by our running. 

We need to protect our nervous systems, so be mindful not to train too hard! When we overtrain this depletes vital nutrients, and on top of the already highly changed emotional load we carry, this can become too much very quickly. 

In our mindset, we need to attend to our stress levels and notice when we are dependent on something to self-regulate. We lean on alcohol to calm down, caffeine to wind up, and sugar to feel pleasure. We want to feel pleasure in our stability, and in our female bodies, not in our food and drink. 

We want to accept that we are like transmission radios for emotions. It is our job to understand them and provide a safe space for others to understand theirs too. It is easier for us than it is for men, and this is not a copout, it’s just the way it is – our brains are different. 

So the day you recognise you have different biology, and embrace your femininity, the easier things get. This way you can take a measured approach to your life, ensuring more success and less fallbacks. 

This is not to discount the fact that we are all on a spectrum of some sorts, some more feminine and some more masculine, both in energy and body structure. Some of us are more sensitive than others. There are women who rock it as CEOs with no children, and others who have lots of children and dedicate their lives to their development. 

Once you recognise where you are on the spectrum you can work out whether or not you feel like you are living in harmony with your body, or fighting against it. And then you can make the most out of your beautiful life.

Introducing Mindset Mastery!

To make this easier for you to grasp, I’ve included this topic as one of the cornerstone pieces in Mindset Mastery – a journey to inside-out transformation. It’s a self-coaching course that supports you to embrace your femininity, and overcome all the obstacles that lie between you and your dreams!  

This program was put together after many years of female transformation coaching, and includes every single aspect of mind and energetics required to master your mind in a holistic way!

Jen x